by Lisa Lane Brown
You’ve heard of the Comfort Zone?
It’s a place we feel comfortable.
We have a Comfort Zone in everything–food, tasks, driving routes, and especially: the people we associate with.
A few years ago I went to my high school reunion and had dinner with the most popular guy in our school. He was handsome, charming, and yes, captain of the football team.
“Chris how are you?” I asked. “Actually, I’m terrible,” he replied.
I was really surprised. “What happened to you?”
“I’m going through a traumatic divorce. Not only have I lost the person I love most, but since we cocooned and spent all our time together, I don’t have a support system now.”
Then Chris brought up the Comfort Zone. His theory?
“We find one person who knows all our insecurities. That person becomes our Comfort Zone, so we spend 92% of our time with that person. We don’t challenge ourselves to hang with new people or do new things.”
The Comfort Zone simplifies life.
You don’t need to exert effort or thought when you’re inside it.
Problem is, the Comfort Zone becomes a habit. It seduces us because we start to confuse comfort with happiness.
The moment this happens, we stop challenging ourselves.
Of course the Comfort Zone saps our confidence, because we’re not evolving ourselves. We’re basically coping with life.
How do you know the Comfort Zone is getting you?
There are four signs.
One is boredom. Your life feels repetitious and without novelty.
Another is restlessness. You wonder, “What’s it all mean?”
A third is underachievement. There’s a niggling feeling in the back of your mind that you were meant for more.
A final one is inertia.When you think about moving outside the comfort zone, it feels exhausting.
The good news is that it’s pretty easy to move outside your Comfort Zone once you realize it’s gotten you.
There are two steps for moving yourself out of the Comfort Zone fast.
The first is obvious. You DECIDE to act.
You decide to do the one thing that will give you the most momentum on your goals today. (Don’t worry about tomorrow. Today is all that matters).
Deciding is huge. In the words of Amelia Earhart, the first woman to fly across the Atlantic solo, “The most difficult thing is the decision to act; the rest is merely tenacity. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life, and the process is its own reward.”
The second step is activating the burning desire inside of you to be more. To do this, I suggest you tap into your pride.
Ask yourself, “What competitor is ahead of me? Who is achieving more than me because he’s been willing to do things
I haven’t been?
Imagine this person in your mind, and you’ll tap into your pride instantly, and with enough motivation to kickstart yourself into action.
This is only one strategy for defeating the comfort zone and resurrecting your confidence. There are many, which is why I created the Courage to Win Practice of Commitment audio program.
It’s an audio program that will get you taking action on your goals immediately if not sooner.
Lisa Brown is the founder of the Courage to Win and is considered the world's leading expert on deep mental toughness for success in career, love, and sport. She has personally coached over 7,200 achievers to new heights and conducted over 1,300 live seminars on mental toughness across North America. She has been featured by major media including the New York Times and Entrepreneur Magazine, who called the Courage to Win “a straight-forward guide to success, highly recommended.”