If you’re serious about living your dreams this year, you must remove your inner blocks to success by doing three key things:
1.Figure out the CORRECT skills you must master to achieve your goal.
The truth is that most people get this first step wrong, and it de-rails them from the start. They are taking action, but it’s the wrong action, and so they never get any real momentum on their goal.
For example, statistics show that 85% of businesses fail. Usually it’s because the business owner does not have the skill of attracting enough customers. This is usually a product of the fact that the business owner is trying to sell something that has no market or a really small market. Nobody wants what they are selling badly enough. And therefore, the business owner has no hope of achieving success, because she did not master the first correct skill of business: how to attract a customer.
Another example...I get calls all the time from people who are upset because someone they are attracted to is no longer attracted to them. More often than not, this is because in the relationship they acted as though they were worth less (less valuable) than the other person. They don’t have the skill of communicating how valuable they are in a relationship and therefore cannot trigger attraction properly.
But, to reach your goal, it’s not enough to master the CORRECT skills...
2.You must apply these skills CONSISTENTLY.
A lot of people actually do get started on their goals. They decide to start a business, or learn a language, or go on a diet, or– and they really DO get going.
The problem is that they don’t keep up the momentum. They don’t take action consistently. When they run into setbacks, they get discouraged and don’t persist long enough to win. Of course, this will never work. You can’t win a tennis match by winning one rally...you can’t run a successful business with just a few profitable months...and you can’t get a promotion by finishing one good project every year.
To succeed and live your dreams, you must know how to motivate and discipline yourself to act consistently...and you don’t want to get too far behind. Remember what Warren Buffet said about the chains of habit. He said, “You don’t feel the chains of habit because they are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.”
But it’s not enough to take the CORRECT action CONSISTENTLY. There is still one final of the puzzle...
3. You must act with CONFIDENCE.
Most people experience low confidence at some point in their lives. As a simple example, in a recent study, 7 out of 10 girls reported feeling “not good enough” in some way.
Confidence is important because it is the inner state that causes success to come running into your arms. Imagine you take two salespeople and teach them mastery of the exact same sales techniques. You give them similar accounts to call on, and you have them dress for success. Both call the same number of clients a day, ask the same questions, and use the exact same phrases.
Yet their sales results will not be the same. One of them will walk away with the sale, while the other will be shown the door. The confident person will win; the person who lacks confidence will not.
These are the three C’s to success: Correct, Consistent, Confident action. No matter what your dream is, if you take action using the three C’s, you will materialize it. But if you don’t use the three C’s, you don’t stand a real chance of living your dreams.
How do you get yourself to take congruent, consistent, confident action on your goals?
You do it by gaining the intangible of mental toughness factor.